MIL Pressures 17-Year-Old Granddaughter to Give Away Her Baby to Infertile Aunt

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elina lee
Dec 11, 2023 4:00 PM EST

If there's one thing about relationships with our in-laws - they're not easy. In fact, they're quite tricky and complicated, and filled with their own set of challenges. Many parents-in-law act entitled or bossy, making it quite difficult to build a relationship. Now, I'm no psychologist but something tells me that this happens because they feel a special attachment to their kids, a.k.a our partners, and believe they know what's best for them and everyone around. 

If you have been blessed with supportive in-laws then consider yourself lucky because the rest of us got the shorter end of the stick. Like, for example, the OP of today's story. The highlight is on a woman who turned to Reddit to vent about her mother-in-law. Now, this isn't your typical 'MIL poking her nose in places where it doesn't belong' type of story, it's worse. All I will say is, this lady needs a major reality check. 

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    Posted by u/Outrageous_Share7008 2 hours ago AITA for kicking my MIL out of my house for trying to convince my daughter to give her baby to my SIL?
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    134f have been married to my husband for 10 years. We have 2 daughters together 7 and 5. I have a daughter from a high school relationship who is 17. My daughter is 7 months pregnant. The father is in her life. They both are working hard saving money. I've already had the necessary talks with my daughter, but she is dead set on being a mother to this child.
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    My SIL35 has struggled with fertility, and basically has been told she cannot have children. They've been actively trying or just not using protection for the past 10 years, and only conceived twice ending in early miscarriages. My mil already brought up the idea of letting sil adopt this baby which we told her my daughters wishes.
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    The other day I came home from work and my mil was over, and I overheard her talking to my daughter about that idea. Telling her how she wouldn't be fit to be a mother and sil is much more prepared and how she wouldn't want to repeat the cycle (bc I had her so young.) she then pulled a guilt trip and told her how sil dream is for a child. I simply opened the door and just said "get out." She stared at me in complete disbelief, then said I couldn't kick her out of her sons house.
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    I said, I can and I just did. She left, but then when my husband got home from work he said she had left a ton of messages about how in the wrong I am and how I'm setting my daughter up for failure. My husbands on my side. AITA?
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    Dramatic Attempt4318 2 hr. ago NTA. While I cannot imagine the tough journey your SIL is on as she navigates her fertility struggles, your daughter's circumstance is not a patch job for your SIL's situation. There are tough conversations to be had when one is pregnant without planning it (regardless
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    of age), but it was not your MIL's place to of those conversations and she didn't even approach it as a have any conversation: she was trying to manipulate your daughter emotionally.
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    She deserved to get kicked out. She has no respect for boundaries or decency.
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    Food for thought: Could you (or husband) touch base with SIL to see if she knew what MIL was doing? I hope she was unawares, but if she was not, it may necessitate a conversation with both MIL and SIL about boundaries and what is and is not their place in regards to your daughter's pregnancy (although I also encourage you to check with your daughter to see if she is willing, and comfortable, to have you advocate on her behalf this way). 1.2k Reply Share
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    mocha_lattes_ 2 hr. ago Not to mention that the father of the child also has a say and it sounds like he wants to be involved. They can try to bully OPs daughter but they can't just go try to bully her boyfriend into giving up his child.
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    TogarSucks 2 hr. ago Aficionado [15] ● she was trying to manipulate your daughter emotionally. Exactly why she didn't have those conversations with the appropriate people before going right to her.
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    For all we know SIL would not have been comfortable with the idea of raising her brother's step- granddaughter. If MIL had the audacity to go right to the 17 year old she may not have included SIL in the plan to begin with. NTA.
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    Due_Laugh_3852 - 2 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [22] Even if your daughter eventually decides that teenage motherhood is not for her, she is not a broodmare for your inlaws. Letting a close family member adopt the baby is a horrible idea put forth by horribly selfish people. Good on you and your husband to have your daughter's back. NTA
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    BoudiccaRisen · 2 hr. ago ΝΤΑ Whether you agree with your daughter's decision or not, it's good that you have her back. You know first hand how difficult this path can be and you're doing an excellent job of protecting her where you can.
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    BumblebeeSuper - 2 hr. ago ΝΤΑ I love that you just opened the door and said "get out" clear & concise!
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